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Conversations on Desire –Part 2



“Recognize the Divine within yourself. Open the doors of your heart. Develop love more and more. Understand the truth. Experience God. There lies the bliss. Make every effort to understand the immanent Divinity. The Divinity within you is covered by ego and anger. Therefore, real knowledge dawns when attachment is destroyed (Moham hithva punar vidya). Where does this attachment come from? Excessive desires lead to attachment. You may attain temporary peace by undertaking repetition of the name (Japa), meditation (dhyana), and yoga. To attain permanent peace, you must develop love within. Love can turn earth into sky and sky into earth. This sacred love is within you. But, you direct it in the wrong direction and thereby it gets perverted. Develop the sacred Love within you to realise your innate Divinity.” Sri Sathya Sai Baba

Is desire born from a feeling of deficiency or lack?

At its most potent and positive, desire arises from the innate yearning of all beings to experience and express profound unconditional love in all things and situations. Through the many life experiences of the individual, these positive yearnings have been tarnished by untruths that propagate notions of deficiency and lack. Part of our journey in understanding desire is being able to discern the origins of our desires. Are the desires coming from this innate (divinely placed) requirement to unify in Love, which we experience as Inspired Desire, or are they coming from social, ancestral, cultural, inherited, behavioural conditioning, which we describe as environmental desire. The latter often feeds the energies of disappointment, fear, attachment and separation and inculcates lack as real. While the former, Inspired Desire is born of Love’s longing to love itSELF. So to answer this question one needs to be clear about the nature of desire itself.

Who is the author of our experiences?

Everything in our life occurs because we created it, desired it, chose it and just by owning them, we change the way the laws of action and reaction (karma) function in our life. As we become aware and self-responsible, we can ask for inspiration, understanding and healing. As we acknowledge the consequences of our thoughts, words and actions we become free to live a life that has honesty, authenticity and integrity as its bedrock.

 What stands between me and the fulfilment of my desire?

It’s relative to where you are on your journey and to your understanding of desire. Ignorance is the hurdle.

Initially, there is the desire to fulfil material wants, in the form of acquiring power, wealth, spouse, progeny and comfort, in the drive to attain happiness. These desires are influenced by the tendencies (vasanas) from actions (karma) in past lives (samskar).

What matters is paying attention to your desires, investigating their origins, surrendering them and asking the Higher Self how best to meet them. Desires help us journey, grow and learn… they take us on an adventure so that we can experience the many facets of creation and in the process discover our innate wisdom, deepen our understanding and eventually propel us to investigate our true nature.

As awareness blossoms in the fullness of time, the wisdom within will guide the seeker to know that what they desire, is not outside themselves, but the SELF within.


Thank you to those of you that emailed us these questions, it gives us a chance to ponder and consider how best to succinctly answer these ancient philosophical conundrums. Do feel free to send us more…. These questions and answers are discussed in-depth in our Heart of Understanding 8 day Class. We invite you to join us.

Conversations on Desire – Part 1

Conversations on Desire – Part 1


What exactly is desire?

Desires can be defined as wants, needs, wishes and deep longing. The mind is a bundle of desires, an amalgamation of attachments and wants. If the mind is not trained to detach, it can become enmeshed in suffering, fear, anger, grief from unfulfilled desires and pain from attachments.

Desire is the reason we return to this dream existence (Creation) over and over, it is the longing or hankering for fulfillment. Eventually we experience the desire to know our Truth. To know; “Who am I? Where have I come from? Where am I going? What is my purpose?” These latter desires paradoxically help us transcend the mind.

There are many kinds of desire:

There are physiological desires, i.e. hunger, thirst, excretion and sleep. There are mental-emotional desires, i.e. approval, appreciation, recognition, fulfillment, happiness.There are societal and cultural desires, i.e. uplift, fitting in and following the norms.There are spiritual desires, i.e. wisdom, truth, to know our origins, to know God, know the SELF.

The nature / purpose of desire is to take us on a journey to know the Self.

The importance of acknowledging your desires

Desires are just desires. They are not good or bad. Initially, we need to become aware of them, then acknowledge and own them and finally either fulfill them or seek guidance from the Self and surrender them. When the time comes, they will either be fulfilled, you will transcend them or they will simply fade away. Seeking help from the Self makes this process effortless. If you make the choice to become aware of your desires, you can own and surrender them. You can ask for guidance and inspiration and the guidance will give you what you require, whether it helps you to fulfill your desires, let them go, or overcome them. Only by acknowledging your desires do you have the power to learn from them.

Many people are unconscious (unaware) of their desires and these hidden wants, become invisible drivers, that then control them, their decisions and lives. By becoming aware of our desires we enter into a place of power. More in our next blog…

Is desire born from a feeling of deficiency or lack?

Inspired desire, Environmental desire?

Who is the author of your experience?

Liberating Partnerships – Drawing on Grace

ed&ran218 years ago Eddie and I were brought together by our beloved Guru. Little did we know that we would one day be living by the seaside, co-creating LiberatingTouch®, writing books, facilitating seminars, and connecting with so many extraordinary people.

Getting here was not easy and for the first 9 years we were not sure if we could sustain a relationship let alone be partners. What kept us going was the knowledge that we were put together by God. We had to learn the art of communication, sacrifice, patience, trust and understanding. Through our tussles and adventures together we developed greater insight into the personalities we had adopted, the desires and fears that lead us away from each other and the attachments that muddied our vision. The next 9 years were easier, still challenging at times, but we had more clarity, willingness and humility to let go and stay open. As I write this I wonder what the next 9 years have in store for us. It’s very exciting.

Eddie and I have noticed that when we work together, we form a conduit to access Grace. The Grace we experience manifests as wisdom, abundance, understanding and the means for Self Realisation (for example LiberatingTouch®). We draw and share that Grace with others. Everyone we connect with, can in turn use this for themselves and others. They too then create liberating partnerships and draw on Grace.

Nowadays, we work with people that are intent on creating Liberating Partnerships. When working with couples, Eddie and I focus on helping them find ways to listen, and dialogue. We show them how to use Jin Shin Jyutsu and LiberatingTouch®, which can act as a healing balm. Our first goal when working with a couple, is to find something that is relaxing for both partners and something that they both enjoy doing. We explain that the way we work, is for partners to discover what makes them happy and what saddens them and find ways to heal, in order that they can continue to grow. After the sessions, they either grow closer, or they grow in different directions. The focus is on self-knowledge, awareness, freedom, friendship and self-fulfilment.

One of the most difficult challenges in any relationship is that of accepting each others’ limitations. When we accept these limitations, somehow we open the door to limitless honesty, love and possibility. This is the paradox of all relationship.

Here are 4 vital requirements for creating a Liberating Partnership:

1.      Letting go of Expectation (Developing Understanding)

2.      Sharing Responsibility

3.      Communicating Honesty, Integrity and Trust

4.      Self Confidence

You are going to feel and think differently (and sometimes at odds) from your partner, this is a given; what draws the miraculous and mysterious magic into a relationship, is the inner yearning for UNITY, oneness with God – the Creator Source. At the heart of our partnership, is the undying Love that longs to know and merge in Truth. The song the river sings on its way to the ocean.EddieRanjana

My first post for the Appoo blog

Putting together this blog site, has been challenging. There is always a learning curve with all new things. This has been no different. However, it is fun to see this site published after all the effort.TREE

Our master Bhagawan Sri Sathya Sai Baba, says that nature is our teacher. He also says, that nature is the manifestation of GOD. GOD is LOVE and TRUTH. We use the symbol of the TREE as the symbol for GOD or the Higher (Universal) SELF. The TREE has been used as a symbol in many cultures, for thousands of years. We use the TREE as the main symbol in LiberatingTouch®.