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Reclaim your Power with Forgiveness, Love and Truth – Part 4

Week 4: Seeing with the eyes of Love and Truth

Many of us when we look in the mirror see ourselves through eyes that judge, we are focused on appearances, we notice our age, the wrinkles, tiredness, skin deep beauty (or lack of), and so on. Every now and then we can see past the body-mind and something happens, we really see. And this can be a profound empowering experience. To truly heal the Self Sabotage Trinity of “I am not safe (secure, protected)”, “I do not deserve”, and “I am not worthy” and the related energy of “I am not good enough” we need to see ourselves anew, from different eyes, with the eyes of Love and Truth. To reclaim our power we need to transform our vision of ourselves.

This week’s exercise requires you to look in a mirror for a few minutes while asking yourself a few questions. We suggest you look specifically into your eyes as you do this exercise. It is a good idea to either hold hour fingers or tap on the collar bone as you engage with the questions.

This process is meditation; you ask yourself the questions in rhythm with your breath, while holding an area of your body without any requirement of an answer. We teach this as a part of Unconditional Listening in LiberatingTouch. It is a way of listening/seeing/paying attention from the heart. It requires us to drop our awareness from the thinking mind to the expansive heart centred coherence.

Many years ago, when I taught art students one of the first exercises I took them through was about learning how to breathe and see. I asked them to inhale and exhale, close their eyes, let their entire learning drop away and when they opened their eyes they were to imagine seeing the world afresh, anew, to feel, to touch, to sense without labels… to see through the eyes of the heart, to reach into the depths of their being and feel the breath between the spaces of life and to open their vision. I ask you now to do the same when you look in the mirror. Look in the mirror and imagine you could meet all your stories and judgements with Meditative Inquiry and Unconditional Listening. What would happen if you could see yourself with the eyes of the Love and Truth? Can you look deeply past the multitude of reflections, past what changes, and find the one Truth? Can you see the tapestry of Love that you are? Would that empower you?

Here is the LiberatingTouch® Sequence for Seeing the Self (for transforming your vision). Look in the mirror while holding your fingers or tap on your collarbone and ask yourself these questions:

What if I could see this reflection with the eyes of Love today?

What if I could see deep within, with eyes of awe, with pure gratitude and see the Self?

What if just for this moment, I could completely appreciate this reflection?

What if I could let go of all my judgements (opinions) and really, really, look into these eyes. Can I find the joy of understanding?


It is a good idea to do this exercise daily for a minimum of a week. That is it for now till next week. Thank you for participating.

 

Reclaim your Power with Forgiveness, Love and Truth – Part 3

Week 3: Investigating the Self Sabotage Trinity

This week we will take a look at the three common beliefs that rob us of our power. These are “I am not safe (secure, protected)”, “I do not deserve”, and “I am not worthy”. I call them the self-sabotage trinity as they often underlie the resistance that prevents us from recognising our potential and power. These 3 beliefs also feed the debilitating “I am not good enough” mentality, which is quite literally scarcity consciousness about the Self. I could write volumes about how these thoughts impact our self-confidence and our healing capacity, but in the interest of keeping these blog entries short and practical, let’s focus on what we can do to investigate these disempowering beliefs, and explore a practical application for creating a shift in our thought processes.

This week’s exercise is to use the R&R hold every day while bringing our awareness to dwell on the three beliefs: “I am not safe (protected)”, “I do not deserve”, and “I am not worthy” and then swap our hands around (see the videos below for details) while focusing on: “What if I am safe (secure, protected)”, “What if I do deserve”, and “What if I am worthy” and finally one last time on: “Thank you SELF (God, Presence, Creator-Source, Beloved Heart) for helping me realise that I am safe (protected)”, “I do deserve”, and “I am worthy”.

You may notice that one of the three beliefs has a greater charge (challenging intensity) for you. Use the sequence from last week, the LiberatingTouch® Sequence for Trials and Tribulations with the issue, for example if you notice “unworthiness” is an issue for you then you can:

Hold the fingers whilst saying the following phrases

Hold your THUMB (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I could release all my anxiety about _________’unworthiness’_________?”

Hold the INDEX finger (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I was no longer afraid of _________’unworthiness’_________?”

Hold the MIDDLE finger (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I could let go of all my anger in relation to _________’unworthiness’_________?”

Hold the RING finger (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I could acknowledge all my grief in relation to ________’unworthiness’_________?”

Hold the LITTLE finger (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I could know the Love and Truth of the Universal Self within me, guiding me whenever I engaged with _________’unworthiness’_________?”

Here is the video link with the LiberatingTouch® Sequence for Trials and Tribulations.

And that’s it for now. Till the next week. 😉

Reclaim your Power with Forgiveness, Love and Truth – Part 2

Last week we worked with a sequence that allowed us to admit to the “stuff” in our lives that troubles or distresses us. The “Admittedly” Sequence was a warm up, allowing us to be open and honest with ourselves in a compassionate manner. Its purpose was to give us permission to invite the issues and acknowledge where we get stuck and where we lose power. Most importantly it was to help us find that there is something, within us, that is loving, truth seeking, forgiving, and kind (perhaps this can lead us to the source of our power ;-)).

Here is a short movie (44 seconds) with four more “admittedly” phrases for you to play with before embarking on the exercise for week 2.

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Week 2: Discovering where in our lives we experience powerlessness and practising meditative enquiry.

The exercise for this week entails us tuning in to the area in our lives where we experience powerlessness. To open your awareness of where this may be, you can cradle the front and back of your head with the LiberatingTouch® R&R Hold, (as illustrated in the video below), while saying the following words:

“I am open to being aware of how, when and where in my life I feel powerless.”

Wait a few seconds for the answer. If nothing appears in your mind’s eye, simply allow your awareness to visit all the areas in your life that may be troubling you, whether is it your finances, family, children, partner, sexuality, body, health, career, creativity etc. Whatever shows up first, focus on that particular issue for this week while using the LiberatingTouch® Sequence for Trials and Tribulations.

This is a good process to do with issues that you do not want to face or experience; for issues that you resist, for the challenges in your life that you wish would disappear, for what pains you, for the areas in your life that you want to control. It is for facing your personal devils – or more accurately— whatever makes you believe that you are helpless or powerless.

Step 1 — Tune into the issue using the R&R hold as described above

Once you articulate it, e.g. ‘Conflict’ or ‘Debt’ or ‘Name of the person’ or ‘Inadequacy’ or ‘Rejection’, simply fill in the blanks with the chosen ‘issue’, then read out the statements while holding the corresponding fingers.

Step 2 — Hold the fingers whilst practicing Meditative Inquiry

Hold your THUMB (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I could release all my anxiety about ____________‘issue’____________?”

Hold INDEX finger (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I was no longer afraid of ____________‘issue’____________?”

Hold MIDDLE finger (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I could be let go of all my anger in relation to ____________‘issue’____________?”

Hold RING finger (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I could acknowledge all my grief in relation to ____________‘issue’____________?”

Hold LITTLE finger (either side) for a couple minutes and articulate the following gently:

“What if I could know the Love and Truth of the Universal Self within me, guiding me whenever I engaged with ____________‘issue’____________?”

Step 3 — Now check your thoughts, emotions, breathing and body sensations. Do you feel more relaxed, more able to face your devil?

Step 4 — Repeat daily 😉

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That is it for now till next week. Thank you for participating.

 

Reclaim your Power with Forgiveness, Love and Truth

We invite you to join us for the next 7 weeks, for 10 minutes a day to reclaim your power using LiberatingTouch® and EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques). The plan is to keep it simple and share effective practical exercises to do each week. For those of you that would like some background information to LiberatingTouch and Energy Psychology, I suggest checking out our website www.emotionalhealthcentre.com for the Introductory Manuals on EFT and LiberatingTouch. For the rest of you, let’s dive in:

Important Note before we begin: By participating in this program you have agreed to the guidelines, disclaimer and release agreement and have accepted full responsibility for using them. Thank you.

This program is not the definitive recipe to reclaiming power, but an exploration of infinite possibilities.

“We are not victims; we are powerful beyond measure. Even if we forget this, even if circumstance, memory, thoughts keep us replaying the roles of a victim we can always wake up from this trance of material identification; we can reconnect to the Truth. We can shine the light of awareness, dispelling the darkness of our fears and illuminating the infinite power of the Heart. We can shake off the lies of powerlessness like a lion shakes his mane and roar with the certainty that we are Divine.”

POWER

One of the preliminary steps towards Self-realisation is to work towards the infinite power within man. This infinite power is also known as the divine Cosmic power. What is this Cosmic power? The Cosmic power pervades the entire universe and is not different from that in man. The sun derives its energy from this Cosmic source. It is the same Cosmic source that accounts for the power of the human mind and the marvellous power of the eye to see the most distant stars. Even though invisible, it is like electricity flowing in the cables which is only apparent when one switches on the light, appearing dimmer or brighter depending on the wattage of the light bulb. This boundless power is recognised and exercised by each one according to the level of his/her development. Just as the same electrical energy is used for a variety of purposes, for example, heating, lighting etc., likewise, the divine Cosmic energy in human beings is used by different individuals for varied purposes. This energy is latent in all beings. How do you manifest this divine Cosmic energy? You have to start with building up your own personal power.

PERSONAL POWER

This is the power you use to accomplish your daily living and any other pursuits or endeavours imbued with your intellectual knowledge or physical strength. Our lives are influenced by beliefs and conditions that help or hinder us at every turn, even though we are not always aware that we have created them ourselves. These beliefs and conditions are the cause of self-sabotage and no one is to blame, even though we consistently point our ‘fingers of blame’ at others. We have created by consistent, and usually negative, behaviour patterns, filters within our mind that cause us to behave in a way not consistent with our own truth. For example, we may lie because the ‘filter of fear’ makes us shy away from the consequences of our actions. This in turn adds more energy to fear and robs us of our self-confidence and we lose our power. We have many such conditions we have created from childhood that have taken power away from us.

Most of us believe that we have finite power i.e. intellectual or physical. So, we work within the constraints of our belief system. How do we recognise that our belief systems are false? If we have an experience that runs counter to our own belief systems, would we still hold that to be true? For example, there are instances where a mother lifted a car or other heavy object to save her child trapped underneath it. In normal circumstances, even a very strong man would be unable to lift it. The ability of the mother to accomplish that feat is purely the result of the suspension of her belief system that it was beyond her ability. We have conditioned ourselves to believe that we are weak and powerless, but we are infinitely more powerful than we dare believe. When we come into our personal power, we also become true to our SELF. Then, we won’t feel the need to control anyone, as TRUTH need not defend itself.

We need to reclaim our personal power this will help us recognise that we are not confined to time and space, we are neither the body nor the thoughts that come and go. This self-empowerment helps open our awareness to the Cosmic power within us. We are limitless consciousness experiencing a dream born of infinite love emerging from Truth.

Here is the first practical exercise:

Week 1: Admitting where we are at.

Once we can admit to ourselves how, where and when we feel powerless (feel ashamed, guilty, helpless, attached) we can take positive action. This week we focus on admitting to ourselves the mistakes we have made, the mess we are in, the habits we hold onto, all the things that rob our power and yet we can forgive, love and embrace ourselves. The ‘admitting’ is great. It works like a truth or dare game (it reflects one of the foundational principles of EFT – saying it like it is) and the sentiment, “I can’t help but love myself”, seems to always bring a smile to the surface. Play with this exercise using EFT or LiberatingTouch for 7 to 10 minutes every day for one week.

The main phrases that we will practice with are:

Admittedly ________________ (fill in the blank) ______________ I can’t help but love myself

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Admittedly_________________ wouldn’t it be wonderful if I can’t help but love myself.

Here are more phrases to “play” with:

Admittedly I feel powerless and limited, what if, I can’t help but love and forgive myself?

Admittedly I get stressed and flustered and peeved, I can’t help but love myself.

Admittedly I desire wealth and am attached to comfort, yet I can’t help but love and forgive myself.

Admittedly I feel guilty for so much in my life, wouldn’t it be wonderful if I can’t help but love myself.

Admittedly I made a mistake, wouldn’t it be wonderful if I can’t help but love myself.

Admittedly I am attached to my opinions and limitations, what if, I can’t help but love and forgive myself?

Admittedly I am flawed and not the most beautiful being on this planet, what if, I can’t help but love myself?

That is it for now. Thank you for participating.